What
got me started on this was the pseudo anonymous "honest thoughts" that
are going around the facebook. Send someone a number they post their
thoughts on you under that number. YOU both know who you are but the
rest of the interwebz doesn't... in theory. I like it. It is a way to tell your friend that you care about them. This part is cool. But you couldn't just say it to them in a message? Why go through the bother of requesting that someone ASK for your thoughts on them and then "secretly" tell them? Maybe I missed the premise... To show that you can think about someone even though only two people know who you are talking about?
Is
it because we want to love anonymously? We want to love privately? We
want to share an intimate moment and for someone to know that they are
held in high regard in your mind... but in secret.
Thankfully I am not uncomfortable receiving it like some. Those who are made
uncomfortable by affection, gifts, kind words, praise... Those who shrug
off heartfelt words... Are they the ones who love anonymously or do they keep even that sheltered to a point where it never sees the sun?
Reach out. Tell someone what you really think about them. What you love, appreciate, admire, don't like about them. That they look good today. That you are thinking about them. That they are more than a number to you and that you are not ashamed of everyone else knowing it either.
One reason: It's the internet. If you say something like that in a fully public manner, there's a decent chance that some asshat or troll will come along and crap all over it. That's much less likely if the person isn't named.
ReplyDeleteAnother reason: It is, to me at least, better in a way to see something like that said in a public forum than in a private email. Even if it is anonymous, you can still see it and know that somebody made that statement about you part of their "public record", so to speak.
Yet another reason: By making it semi-public you create pressure on yourself to follow through and actually say something, and to make what you say eloquent enough that the average person might find it an interesting read. It drives something more substantial than "I think you're great".
Bottom line, it's fun for the people doing it. It's their public space and they can do whatever they choose to with it, and I find the criticism of it ridiculous (noting that I don't really consider your writing here a criticism per se, so that isn't directed at you).